{"id":22442,"date":"2022-11-19T19:37:33","date_gmt":"2022-11-19T19:37:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/teknomers.com\/en\/talk-less-about-it-speech\/"},"modified":"2022-11-19T19:37:33","modified_gmt":"2022-11-19T19:37:33","slug":"talk-less-about-it-speech","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/teknomers.com\/en\/talk-less-about-it-speech\/","title":{"rendered":"Talk less about it – Speech"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Everyone talks about everything. Everywhere. Always. On the subway, on TV, in cafes, at dinner parties, at the psychologist’s and at the hairdresser’s. There has been greater openness about everything from cohabitation and the underbelly to trauma, embarrassing experiences and negative thoughts. Don’t get me wrong. Openness can cure loneliness and shame. Openness can also initiate important cultural and social changes. Sometimes openness can save lives and help those who need it receive treatment. Not all openness pays off. Talking about your worries can also cause you to worry more. The open society It is perhaps not so surprising that many people talk about everything they worry about in today’s open society. In newspapers and on social media, there is a stream of information about war, the energy crisis, health, illness, mistakes that were made and that could have been avoided – topics that can trigger unrest and concern. It is normal to worry when you are faced with real challenges, such as tighter finances, an uncertain job market, chronic illness or a breakup, but the worries take over if you talk about them all the time. It also doesn’t help much to talk a lot about what you worry about. The worries come back again anyway. The Age of Worry I don’t know if people worry more now than before, but I’m pretty sure it’s more common to talk about their worries. We also know that the experience of a lack of control, changes and pressures in life can trigger concerns. In my psychology practice, I often hear clients talk about happy circumstances that increase the tendency to worry. For example, pregnancy, changing jobs, moving and a new partner can trigger worry: “What if the happiness doesn’t last? What if something happens now that I’m doing so well?\u201d they think. Or maybe something unexpected and tragic happens. If you have been worrying, you can quickly adopt a “precautionary mentality”: Next time I will avoid this happening – I just have to be a few steps ahead. Then you are likely to do something or avoid something to accommodate your worries. For example, you can look for signs of illness every day, if you worry about getting seriously ill. Concerns control not only what you talk about, but also what you do and what you avoid. You can gain a lot if you don’t take your worries seriously, and give them less space in your life. Rather, you should question the utility of worrying: Does it help me to think more about this and talk more about it? What can I do instead? We have a choice We can choose what we talk about. We can choose what we immerse ourselves in. Do you talk about how you really feel, challenges, outsiders, dreams, hopes and passions? Or do you prefer to talk about concerns about health, the future and decay? What you talk about affects both what you and others think about. It also affects how you feel. Think about what you want to share the next time you speak. Maybe you should talk less about it?
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