{"id":104164,"date":"2024-12-13T13:10:28","date_gmt":"2024-12-13T13:10:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/teknomers.com\/en\/not-knowing-everything-speech\/"},"modified":"2024-12-13T13:10:30","modified_gmt":"2024-12-13T13:10:30","slug":"not-knowing-everything-speech","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/teknomers.com\/en\/not-knowing-everything-speech\/","title":{"rendered":"Not knowing everything – Speech"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I ask myself; where are all the happy and drama-free adoption stories? I myself am adopted from Bogot\u00e1 in Colombia, and came to Norway when I was four months old. I grew up in Sandnes with my sister who is four years younger and my parents. Growing up, little attention was paid to the fact that my sister and I were adopted. Not even after we stepped into the adult world have we received significant questions or comments about our adoption stories. However, I have recently experienced a clear change, where both friends, acquaintances and colleagues are increasingly asking questions about my adoption story. I get questions about “what it’s really like to be adopted” and about what it’s like to grow up in what is not my “real family”. Being faced with such questions tells me that there may have been an impression among many that adopted children are consistently victims. In this news case, a tragic story is told about Colombian children who were regularly stolen from their biological parents, and then sent to Norway disguised as legally adopted children. Such stories are incredibly painful to read, and join the series of difficult stories surrounding adoption in recent years. An image can thus be formed that all adopted children, to a greater or lesser extent, have been victims of a cynical and crude industry and that adoption is equated with human trafficking. Over 4,000 children from Colombia have found new families in Norway with help from Adoption Forum. Colombia is a beautiful country, but with a history marked by horrors. Civil wars, guerrillas, drug cartels and deep poverty. In 2015, almost a third of Colombia’s population lived below the national poverty line. Behind every adoption there is a unique story and background. For many of the women who give their child up for adoption, this is considered the best, perhaps even the only, course of action that can give the child prospects for a safe and good future. Growing up in disadvantaged families in poor countries is far from the reality that adopted children face in a country like Norway. Security and peace are a matter of course for me. Had I remained in Bogot\u00e1 in the 1990s, I would have experienced the exact opposite. For many children, being adopted has been a path to a better life, despite not having grown up with their biological family. Being adopted is living with not knowing everything. For many, life as an adoptee can be difficult, because you carry unanswered questions about your own identity and history. Adopted children will almost always have to come to terms with the fact that there are more questions than there are answers. “Who am I?” “Who was I?”, “Who was I supposed to be?” Many may find it difficult that such questions will in many cases remain unanswered. It is understandable. I myself have never lost sleep at night because several of my questions lack exhaustive answers. I am aware and proud of my Colombian origin. Our family has also returned to Colombia and I have been to the orphanage where I spent my first months of life. Traveling to Colombia has given us strong and wonderful experiences. At the same time, I am very grateful that my parents chose to adopt me and my sister, and that we have been allowed to grow up in Norway. Being adopted does not equate to being a victim of either human trafficking, theft or other crime. In my case, being adopted has been a gift. A gift in the form of a life of security and love, and which has freed me from what would almost certainly have been a difficult and unsafe existence in Colombia. I am lucky because I have grown up in a safe country, with wonderful parents, a great family and good friends. The lives and stories of adopted children are as real, different and unique as any other life. Some stories, such as the one told by Natalie Monta\u00f1o in news, are painful and leave a mark. At the same time, it is important not to forget that there are also many good adoption stories. We are thousands of adopted children in Norway who live happy lives precisely because of, not in spite of, the adoption. For the first time since he was adopted to Norway, Christian is going back to Indonesia. It doesn’t turn out quite as he thought. Send us your opinion Want to write? Feel free to contact us at news Ytring with your post. The guidelines can be found here. Published 13.12.2024, at 2 p.m
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