The case in summary Julie Bratseth Håkonsen (27) has been on and off dating apps for about eight years, but they have caused her to lose a little of her faith in love. A survey carried out for news shows that one in three has lost faith in love after using dating apps. Julie notices that she is more picky about dating apps than in reality, and that it is more difficult to evaluate a potential partner through the mobile phone. Matchmaker Ane Sideri Hagen believes one problem with dating apps is that many people use them for confirmation or non-committal sex, which can lead to disappointment for those looking for a long-term relationship. The summary is made by an AI service from OpenAi. The content is quality assured by news’s journalists before publication. For approximately eight years, Julie Bratseth Håkonsen (27) has been on and off dating apps. Matches have resulted in 10–20 dates and some situationships. But she really wants a long-term relationship. She has lost count of how many times she has deleted or paused the apps. Sometimes she’s dropped out because she’s had something going on with someone. Other times because she is tired of the sweeping. But she always came back. Recently it was on again. She feels she should be there. Julie Bratseth Håkonsen can well understand that many lose faith in love because of Tinder, Hinge and similar apps. Photo: Ksenia Novikova / news – I have thought several times that it would have been easier to grow up when mum and dad did it – without all these apps, she laughs. One in three has less faith in love The first site for online dating came in the 90s. Since then, many dating apps have come. Tinder, which was launched in autumn 2012, is the world’s most used. Today it is one of many in the same street. Hinge, Happn, Bumble, Raya – to name a few. news has carried out a survey which shows that one in three has lost faith in love after using such apps. – I’ve lost a little faith in love with dating apps. I’m in my fourth year of being single and haven’t found anyone yet, says Håkonsen. 7 out of 10 young Norwegians use or have used checking apps. Julie Bratseth Håkonsen has used Tinder for approximately eight years. Photo: Ksenia Novikova / news news has shared the findings of the survey with Match Group, the company behind, among others, Tinder and Hinge. They respond that the results of the survey do not match the trends they themselves see across their platforms, without elaborating. A spokesperson writes the following in an email to news: – We know that dating can be difficult, so we want to continue to solve this for our users and give them good experiences, so that they support our brands and have the power to create life-changing relationship. Less picky in reality Håkonsen has noticed a pattern with his own dating app behaviour. – I’m very picky! Overanalyzes and picks on small things. “He looked weird in that one picture.” “He formulated himself a bit in a particular way.” If the first meeting is face to face, it is completely different. – If a man comes over and is funny, or I see that he shows concern for others and is polite, a process starts in me that this is a good guy. This is much more difficult through screen. Julie Bratseth Håkonsen believes that the new dating culture makes us more appearance-focused. Photo: Ksenia Novikova / news – In a relationship in the real world, there is probably greater acceptance for someone saying or doing something small, says Trond Viggo Grøntvedt. He works at the Department of Psychology at NTNU, and among other things has researched Tinder use among students. According to him, many people probably find it easy to break contact with a flirt they have met on a check app as soon as they get a hint of an ick or see a red flag. – I can understand that people lose faith, he says. The short way back to Tinder Another reason for less faith in love is unsuccessful dates, says Grøntvedt. If the first “meeting” takes place on an app, important information is lost. Body odor, body language and how the person is towards others. He also points out that dating apps may contribute to people giving up on a relationship more quickly. – You don’t get relationships that are rosy all the time. Relationships are also compromise, arguing and conflict. Today, it’s very easy to download an app and start all over again. Long-term relationship or casual sex? Ane Sideri Hagen is a matchmaker. Her job is to create safe and long-lasting romantic relationships by connecting people who are compatible with each other. One of the problems with Tinder and the like, she believes, is that “everyone” is there – even those who don’t want something that will last. Ane Sideri Hagen works as a matchmaker. Photo: Joachim Steinbru – Many people are tricked into potential relationships because the other person is on the dating apps to get confirmation or play around. When you have many bad experiences, you lose faith in finding what you want. One in three Norwegians aged 18 to 29 use dating apps for non-binding sex, news’s survey shows. Why are you/have you been on Tinder or other dating apps? To find love and have a long-term relationship❤️ To have a short-term relationship💏 To get laid💦 To make friends👯 Because it’s a fun pastime🚽 For completely different reasons🔥 To snoop and check the selection👀 I’ve never been on dating apps👴🏻 Show result NTNU professor Mons Bendixen says a common notion is that “everyone” gets what they want via the apps. – But only one in five finds a lover via Tinder, and only one in five has non-committal sex there, says the professor, referring to the study on students on Tinder. – People become disillusioned and disappointed, and think that they are very unattractive who do not succeed. As much rejection as you get on Tinder is a big problem, he believes. Professor at NTNU, Mons Bendixen. Photo: Kirsti Kringstad / news Self-esteem breaker Julie Bratseth Håkonsen herself experienced a break in her confidence when she downloaded the dating app Hinge for the first time. It differed from Tinder, among other things, because you can only like a limited number of people per day. – On Tinder it may say “99+ likes are waiting for you”. On Hinge, I experienced that I did not get any likes and that no one liked me back. It became very clear. I began to overanalyze my profile – and myself. Julie Bratseth Håkonsen says it takes little to lose interest in someone she meets via screen. To put it bluntly, she says that messages with typos can be enough. Photo: Ksenia Novikova / news Now the 27-year-old is more relaxed about Hinge, and thinks it’s perfectly fine to be both there and on Tinder. But she has no doubts: Most of all, she would like to meet a lover in the real world. – The optimal thing might have been to meet someone when I was studying. Then we had so many arenas to meet others. Now that I’m working, I have to actively seek them out myself. Meeting through mutual acquaintances or a common interest is probably the optimal thing now. But the hope that he is in the app universe is still alive. Maybe he is behind the next swipe? 1. Have good pictures Research shows that it is your profile pictures that have the most to say about the interest you get, so find your best looking pictures. – Choose pictures where you both look good and bring out appealing aspects of your personality, says psychologist Marius Stavang. He researches dating and the use of dating apps. 2. “Casual” bio Write a bio that is a bit short, but that shows who you are on a personal level. According to Stavang, there is a slightly different culture on the different apps linked to how seriously you should write and how much you should write in the bio. – You have to look into that a bit. On Tinder, it seems that there is a culture for having a “casual” and short bio. 3. Fill in the fields, men! Studies show that it is very important for men to describe themselves in their profile. According to dating researcher Stavang, you then get significantly more interest from women. – It is more important for men than women to have a full profile and fill in the fields you can. Women tend to have a greater need for information about who they are going to meet. Men tolerate more uncertainty there. 4. Tell what you do for a living – International studies have also shown that men with a good job or education should show it on their profile. You get more interest from it, says Stavang. Even men with normal jobs should talk about it, because women have a greater need for information. At the same time, women should also share what they do. – Women need not be afraid of “scaring away” men if they have prestigious jobs, says Stavang. 5. Looking for a long relationship? Say it! If you are a man and want to use a dating app, the researcher believes that it is wisest to think that this works best when you want to get a girlfriend. Then you should show that that is what you are looking for. – Unless you are very attractive, you will probably struggle to get any particular interest if your profile communicates that you are only interested in casual sex. Stavang says that women should also be clear about what they are looking for.6. Be generous If you haven’t used any of the dating apps yet, the advice from the dating researcher is to go into it with a slightly light-hearted and generous attitude. You should also try not to be so self-critical when you send a message. – Be generous and generous with it you receive messages from. Be nice to each other. Try to put the “icks” aside. Relax and good luck! Hi! So glad you’ve read all the way down here! Do you have a dating or love story that others should hear about? Do you have a tip, or something on your mind after reading this case? Then send us an email!
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