– Santa is with the load. If you have a hard time in everyday life, you will take it with you into the holiday as well. This is what Andreas Magnus says, who has been married to his wife Ingunn for 20 years. They have three children together and have planned many vacations throughout. And if we are to believe the couple, there are no guarantees that the holiday will be perfect. Trying to compromise Andreas says that disagreements can easily arise about what to do. – For me, it’s about getting away from home, he says. But the wife would rather be at home. Then they try to compromise. – My advice is to start talking about the holiday early, so that you have time to plan, Ingunn encourages. When Andreas wants to go away on holiday and his wife Ingunn prefers to be at home, they try to compromise. Photo: Levi J. Magnus Five tips for a great holiday Statistics from Bufdir show that the number of inquiries to the family welfare service increases in the periods after both the Christmas and summer holidays. – Very many couples seek help right before the holiday, because you feel the crisis already then. “We have to be together a whole holiday, and all the time.” That’s what Maria Mork says. She is a couple interpreter, and daily tries to help couples understand each other better. Do you feel uneasy before the holiday sets in? Here the couple interpreter gives you his five best tips for having a good holiday together. Maria Mork says she is contacted by couples who need help even before the holiday. – Many people already feel the crisis, the party interpreter says. Photo: Heidi Ditlefsen / news Clarify expectations and needs Mork says that you must first and foremost clarify your own needs. – What do I need? Your needs for this summer holiday may be different than before, she says. Mork recommends talking to your partner and others you want to talk to about what they want to do. And preferably every day, – It is a great way to avoid misunderstandings and disappointments, says the party interpreter. Focus on what is good Then you may want to talk about what is most important to you. – Then you better tolerate that things do not turn out exactly as you thought, says Mork. She believes it is about having a focus on what is actually good rather than what is not what you want. – Look at what you enjoy and what you think is good. Appreciate what you have, she encourages. Photo: Frank May / NTB See each other Another piece of advice is not to assume you know. – Do not assume that you know what your partner means, needs and feels until you have asked. Be curious about each other, says Mork. Help, it’s a holiday! Some people find the holiday demanding. Others do not know what to do. In addition, there are those who are already struggling. According to Mork, this can lead to many people becoming confused. She points out that it does not have to be that difficult. – Think that the holiday is a time of opportunity, where you think: “This is what we are going to do – what is going to happen?”. She says that a connection time can be smart. – It can be 5-10 minutes a day where you go for a walk together, or have a cup of coffee. The purpose is to be a little alone, to express their needs, or to confirm to each other what you appreciate about your partner. Photo: Colourbox.com Avoid discharge Partolken otherwise believes it is important to give each other the freedom to charge. Everyone charges their batteries in different ways. – Some need to be a little alone, others need social cohesion. Mork also suggests being close physically. She believes that the daily embrace, a hug that lasts for more than eight seconds, can release hormones and lower stress. She reiterates that it is important to ask each other what you need. – Accept that you are different, she concludes.
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