The days are getting darker and feel shorter, and it’s getting cooler. That’s how it is every year when the calendar shows autumn. And for many, that means the hook on the door of marriage. Figures from Statistics Norway show that most separations are taken out in the autumn – especially in October. But Svein Nordbøe and Jorunn Berg Nordbøe have been together for 40 autumns, and still counting. And not least – they are happy as the day is long. What is the secret? It’s important to say sorry – We have such a great time in everyday life. We are not bored. If one is going out on something, the other is worried that we will be apart for too long, says Jorunn. And the laughter is loose with the married couple in their 80s. It almost seems like they haven’t let go of their new crush yet. – What is the key, then, to having a long and happy marriage? – How the marriage will last, yes, it would be good to know, says Svein and makes his wife laugh for the nth time today. But from joking to seriousness, they have to share a bit about how they have coped with the phases that are more demanding than the sunny days. – Do you never argue? – God bless me, we’ve argued, says Svein. – But we never go to bed until we’re friends. It is important to say sorry to each other, says Jorunn. They have found support in each other through difficult times, and emphasize the importance of looking out for each other when things are difficult. But the married couple have the most good days together. – We are very similar. Likes the same and wants the same. The most important thing is that you have a harmonious life, she says. – And good food!, Svein chimes in. – Keep the conversation going Friends Erling Arne Høie and Eivind Andersen have been married for over 50 years each. The latter has been married to his wife for 53 years. – It’s about cooperation and respect. 53 years of nothing but joy is not bad!, says Andersen. He believes that the key to a long and beautiful marriage is not necessarily that difficult. – Keep the conversation going and be positive. And have respect for each other, not least. The friends Erling Arne Høie and Eivind Andersen each have their own long marriages. Photo: Maja Mathisen / news Keeping the conversation going is also important in tough times, according to Høie. – It is important to talk about your problems, and not sweep them away. Get it up in the day. And then both must be committed to solving it. He also believes that to be happy in a marriage, you have to feel good about yourself too. – You should perhaps have some common interests. But it also helps to thrive in your own company – it’s important to be able to do things independently, says Høie. Put the downturns behind you – You have to be generous with each other. In addition, honesty and trust are important, says Ingebjørg Guldbrandsen. The friends have many years of experience in marriage. Anne Berit Hinna, Astrid Ellingsen and Ingebjørg Guldbrandsen. Photo: Maja Mathisen / news Astrid Ellingsen can tell you that it is important to be able to swallow some camels – or animals of other sizes – the problem is a bit questionable. – You have to put the downturns behind you. Swallow some elephants and start over the next day. Know that the hard times will pass. For her, marriage means a lot. – The best thing in a marriage is that there are two people about everything. Put others before yourself Renate Stople and Endre Johan Stople are almost as newlyweds as you get. Two months ago, they gave each other their yes and promised each other forever. – We think the tip about keeping the conversation going on important and unimportant things was particularly good. It has made a difference in our relationship, says Endre. Endre Johan Stople and Renate Stople have been married for two months and are determined to be together for the rest of their lives. Photo: Sarah Sirevåg Nordbø – And good food! After we got married, I found out that we were often not mad at each other, but maybe we were just hungry, adds Renate. They have also thought of some things of their own that they think will keep the marriage alive. – Putting others before oneself – that goes a long way. For example, this week has been very busy for me at work, so I have to tidy up the house in the evening. Renate is not a big fan of me drinking Red Bull, but then she had bought it for me when I got home last night – then she sat me in front of her! Renate says that they are determined to be together for the rest of their lives. – We found that out quite quickly. I proposed after a year and a half. I have no doubt that we will be married as long as we live, says Endre. What are your best marriage tips? 👇 Hello! Welcome to dialogue at news. Since you are logged in to other news services, you do not have to log in again here, but we need your consent to our terms of use for online dialogue Published 13.10.2024, at 20.43
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