On the third floor, in a rather sad brick building in the center of Namsos, Magnus and Linda have been many times. – We actually realized where we failed, but we couldn’t solve it ourselves, says Magnus Moa Frisendal. He and Linda Moa Frisendal have been lovers for almost 17 years. Eleven years ago they got married. There have also been three children over the years. But, as in all other relationships, things have gone up and down. – There are two different personalities. Two different ways to handle an argument. And, as we eventually discovered, that it was actually a bit toxic for each other, says Magnus. Request for help They therefore decided to go up the stairs to the Family Protection Office in Namsos. – My way of dealing with a discussion was completely opposite to her way of dealing with it. Then we just drove into the ditch. Every single time, says Magnus. At the family welfare office, the couple got the help they needed to get the arguments on a better track. – Many are upset and are moved to tears. Many may be angry too. Then it is often the collaboration that is a bit challenging, says Elsa Birgit Sætran. She is the one who takes the phone calls from desperate couples, and has noticed a lot of demand from people who want mediation in connection with a break-up or an hour for the couple’s relationship. Many people need help to talk together. – Some people think that if they come here, the therapist will fix everything. That’s not how it works. The therapist depends on those who come to tell us what the challenges are, says Sætran. Traveling after holidays and public holidays Several family welfare offices news has been in contact with tell about busy days after the summer holidays. In Sør-Rogaland, they have received 173 cases in the last month. Half of these are couples who want help. Busy days are also reported in Tromsø, Vest-Agder and Trondheim. In the capital of Trønder, approximately 100 couples have made contact to make an appointment, significantly more than last year. – Many have been together a lot during the summer and this can strain the couple’s relationship. The problems are becoming more visible, writes manager Geir Lehn Hultgren at the Family Welfare Office in Trondheim. Looking for characteristics The family protection offices are a low-threshold service that is free. The fact that it costs nothing is probably an important reason for the large demand as well. Couples therapist, Jonas Falch Madsen, depends on the couples who come to be honest and tell what they are struggling with in order for him to be able to help them further. Photo: Mari Svenning / news – We often help them put into words what each of them finds difficult. Because it can be a little different. Sometimes we split the couple up at the start to give them more freedom to say how they feel things are, without having to take the other’s feelings into account when talking about what is difficult, says couples therapist Jonas Falch-Madsen. Much of the work, according to Falch-Madsen, is about finding the patterns that the couples have become stuck in. – Are there any characteristics when they lose each other a little in everyday life, or when there are conflicts? The family welfare offices can help with this. Those who want to work on the relationship. Those who have communication difficulties. Those who have sexual problems. Quarrels, infidelity and jealousy. Breakups and parental cooperation. My and your children. Threats, violence or drugs. ) Believe in love Linda and Magnus have needed help to get their relationship on the right track several times over the past ten years. They completed the last round a few months ago. – There are plenty of them who give up too early. But there is a lot that can be solved just by talking together, says Magnus. Linda believes that she and Magnus have become better at solving the conflicts that arise in everyday life after the meetings at the Family Protection Office. – There is no apportionment of blame. Here we are talking about meeting each other and making arrangements to resolve the conflict you are in and those that come later. Because more will come, she says. Because both have always agreed on one thing. It should be the two of them. – Then we have to be so open that when we go backwards again, all we have to do is call here and we will get help. – Love and marriage are not free. But when the feelings are as great as they are, and the love is there, you have to do everything you can to save it, says Magnus.
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Great demand at the Family Welfare Offices after the summer holidays – news Trøndelag – Local news, TV and radio
