🚩 Clap when the plane lands 🚩 Writes “D” and not “it”, so what do you use the extra 0.1 seconds for? 🚩 Sleeping with snuff in These are some examples of red flags news has received from young people. – That is something we are talking about. That’s what Runa Tandsether (18) says as she fiddles with her mobile phone to access the notes app. There she has a list of both red flags and icks. Runa Tandsether (18) thinks it’s nice to have a list of red flags to remind herself what she looks for in a person. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / NRKRuna Tandsether (18) thinks it’s nice to have a list of red flags to remind herself what she looks for in a person. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news Several young people news has spoken to have submitted their lists of “red flags”. An anonymous submitter had a total of 1521 points with “red flags” and “icks” on his list. Excerpts from the list can be found in the illustration at the top. – Not asking me questions, I would say, is a big “red flag” for me. Because then you won’t get to know me. – Also talking badly to your mother for no reason, it’s just mean, she says as she scrolls through the list. The list on Runa Tandsether’s phone has several points with red flags and icks. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news Tandsether believes that most people think about “red flags”, even if they have not necessarily written them down. – I think it’s nice to have a list to remind myself of that. Otherwise, it is easy to be blinded by other things, she says. – Signs that something is not right 1.4 million Norwegians are single, according to a survey carried out by news and SSB in 2021. Sexologist and couples therapist Siv Gamnes believes red and green flags are something you should be aware of when dating. Siv Gamnes – Red flags are characteristics, demeanor, thoughts or things that the person does that you absolutely do not like, or signs that something is not right, she says. She believes serious “red flags” are good to be aware of. – At the same time, you perhaps become a little more focused on the negative, and that you are unable to see the positive in a person, she explains. And this is where the green flags come in. – Green flags are what you like. Like, for example, that you get positive energy and that there is a person you want to get to know better or be with, says Gamnes. Do you have a list of red flags? 🚩 Yes, I do! No, it’s not that important to me. No, but I have a list of green flags ✅ Show result Can affect people negatively Tomine Giske Røren (15) keeps uploading videos about red and green flags on TikTok. Tomine Giske Røren (15) has both a list of red flags and a list of green flags. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news – It’s a fun topic, but I think it can also affect people negatively. Perhaps you become more afraid to show what you really are, she says and adds: – At the same time, it is the case that everyone is different and prefers different things. Røren describes his green flags as “basic”. – I’m looking more for “green flags”. It is also difficult to see the red flags at the start, and you think “oh, everything is fine”. Then things may appear over time. ✅ Smells good ✅ Has good style ✅ Gives me compliments ✅ Holds the door for me Look for green flags first Having a focus on red flags when dating need not be negative, says sexologist and couples therapist Siv Gamnes. – It allows you to sit and see things from the outside and make assessments. You would perhaps not do that to the same extent if you went straight to being lovers, she says. Illustration: Alexander Slotten / news At the same time, she emphasizes that you should look for the green flags first. – See if there are enough green flags that this is a person you want to bet on. If you agree to that, then I think you can start sorting through the red flags a bit, says Gamnes and adds: – You have to expect that you will take some red flags with you into a relationship.
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Raising the red flag – Norway
