Student Åsleik Kapstad (24) is single, and has made up some thoughts about what it’s like to get a girlfriend today. – I feel that the threshold for getting together with someone is quite high. If you can’t find someone who fits your personality perfectly, then it’s just a casual situation. And then it just ends there, says Kapstad. Too many choices news has previously written about the Finnish researcher Anna Rotkirch, who points out that a change in the dating culture in recent years is one of the factors that affects how many children we have. Fewer stable relationships among young people is something the researcher highlights. Statistics from Statistics Norway: In 1995, 25 per cent of those between the ages of 20 and 24 were cohabiting, while in 2022 this has dropped to 21 per cent. There has been an increase in cohabitation among those aged 25 and over in the same time period. The percentage of those who marry has decreased in all age groups from 1995 to 2022. Six percent of those aged 20 to 24 got married in 1995. In 2022, one percent of those in the same age group got married. For those between the ages of 20 and 24, the proportion who are not in a cohabitation has increased by nine percentage points from 1995 to 2022. 1.4 million Norwegians are single, according to a survey carried out by news and Statistics Norway in 2021. The figures are taken from Statistics Norway – Statistics can point to fewer people committing to a relationship, given that fewer people get married and more people live alone, says Fartein Ask Torvik, researcher at the Center for Fertility and Health at FHI. He emphasizes that it is difficult to give an answer as to why this is so, but points out that today’s dating culture may be one of the reasons. Fartein Ask Torvik, researcher at FHI, believes that access to potential partners makes it more difficult to commit. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news – This is speculation on my part. But in the past you met each other via work, study, friends, associations and clubs, whereas now it is very common to meet each other online, he says and continues: – When you have endless access to potential partners by scrolling on Tinder, it can be difficult to go for one. “Cold approaching” Although Åsleik Kapstad feels that there is a lot of online dating, he himself would like to meet potential partners in real life. And there is one method in particular that has worked. – I have tried something called “cold approaching”. – What is it? – It’s walking up to someone I find attractive and making an excuse like “Hey, where’s the library”? And then say hello, and say that “I actually came up to you because I think you’re cute”, he explains. Many people talk about dating in social media. The subject tag “cold approaching” has several thousand posts. Photo: Screenshot from TikTok He says that it takes a lot of courage, because it can be quite scary. – But you stand out from the crowd, because you dare to actually walk away, says Kapstad and adds: – It has worked very well for me at least. It’s what I’ve gotten the most dates through. Talk about intentions early Students Alice Cathrine Lochoff Dauge (22) and Ingrid Eriksen (22) believe that much of today’s dating culture is linked to pace. Alice Cathrine Lochoff Dauge and Ingrid Eriksen think you should get better at talking about intentions early on. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news – The pace is often very fast, because you behave as lovers quickly. It is probably very easy to end up in situationships. You are something, while at the same time you are nothing, explains Eriksen. – It’s fine as long as both are on board, but then I feel that there is always one party that is not completely honest, Lochoff Dauge tells. Eriksen is clear on how to proceed in order to create a stable relationship. – Ideally, you meet face to face. But often it’s a dating app. Then you move on to snap, which is more casual. Then you spend a lot of time together. It is important to define who you are and what your intentions are early on, she says. The uncertainty in the world can affect dating Siv Gamnes, sexologist and couple therapist, believes that dating is affected by the times we live in. Sexologist and couple therapist Siv Gamnes feels that more people like to meet potential partners in real life. Photo: Henriette Nordheim / news – Uncertainty in the world, such as war and the climate crisis, can influence us to think that we don’t really want to commit ourselves, she says. She also believes that the access to potential partners on dating apps has changed the dating culture, but feels that more people have gone back to the “old method” of dating. – You meet someone in the city, at work or in a social setting. The advantage of meeting a person in real life is that you get to know a little about the chemistry right away. You don’t get that on dating apps, she says. Published 11.10.2024, at 10.32
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